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Thoughts about Relationships

on May 27, 2013

Watching my wall on Facebook is always fascinating.  I love when a “theme of the day” or week emerges, thoughts that complement each other and make me think.  The posts I see this morning speak for themselves, so here are they are:

from David Mills:

Today’s message from Neale Donald Walsch. Wow, I just love this:

“The purpose of relationship may not be what you think.

If you are excited about forming a relationship based on

what it looks like you can get, rather than what you can give,

you have started off on the wrong foot entirely, and you

could be heading for a big disappointment.

The purpose of all relationships is to create a sacred context

within which you can express the fullness of who you are.

And who you are is an experience you have BEFORE

you enter relationship, not because you did.”

from Jada Pinkett Smith:

Letting Go.

I have a friend that I had to lovingly let go. We had very different perspectives on what being a friend meant. There was no right or wrong…just different. Unfortunately, we lacked the ability to find a happy medium that made our friendship enjoyable, and we went our separate ways. Today, I realized that the ability for two people to separate, for the reason that you care for the other so much and desire them to be happy and accepted for who they are without question or doubt, IS a gift of friendship. We were able to take care of ourselves as well as one another. This experience gave me a different definition of “friendship”, and that at times “friendship” can come in forms we don’t recognize.

I am grateful for the lesson.


from Lauren Worsh:

I’ve been noticing lately how much we have conditioned ourselves to receive others conditionally, based on our quite narrow ideas and preferences regarding “how a person should be”. Rather, I should say, I have been noticing how deep it runs and how subtle it gets. For we do this, I believe, in quiet and habitual ways that don’t seem to be prejudicial. In other words, we filter what to give our attention to at a primarily unconscious level.

When we choose to let go of habits of preference and judgment, choose instead to trust the discernment of the clear heart, we begin to see, appreciate, and enjoy the perfection and uniqueness of those we previous felt uncomfortably triggered by. We own and metabolize those triggers, and are liberated in the process into an experience of life that is utterly redemptive and joyful. It is a cliche perhaps to say the heart overflows, yet there it is … … … The heart is a fountain; its continual pulse of expansion, release and integration infinitely, emergently luminous.

We are truly capable of enjoying and appreciating the unique gifts of all, and honoring Self without cease, in endless celebration.

There is no judgment on the habit of judgment. We start there. It was a strategy, and it worked. But where we’re going we don’t need it anymore. We can put it down whenever we choose.

from Lynda Allen:

live life

from Lee Harris:

More than anything, be kind to yourself.

Much of what we were taught in society was designed to make us hard on ourselves. Whether that judgment is on your appearance, your ways of being, what you think you are not good at.

Recognize all of those ideas are illusions that we have been fed. But when they combine with emotions, those illusions play out inside us as very real.

So if you make but one commitment for 2013, agree to be kinder to and on yourself. ~~Lee, from 2013: Year of Community

from Simon Nilsson:

The heart has its own intelligence and constantly communicates with other hearts.

from Aura & Soul Psychology:

When souls meet who have known each other before, there is an experience of ‘resonance’ that takes place that lets each know, if they are open to knowing, that something unusual is taking place on an energy level. A synergy occurs which is vibrational that lets the heart know that something powerful is going on. This kind of occurrence does not mean that we must respond in a particular way to it, for the destiny of each encounter and relationship has to be met on its own terms, and these include both the soul-level connection we may have with another, and also how the meeting fits into our present-day embodied life. Nevertheless, the awareness of having met another whom we recognize to come from the same ‘place’ as we have, is a deeply moving experience – one that many people have without knowing where the feeling comes from. –Carola Arcadia

3 responses to “Thoughts about Relationships

  1. starlight says:

    Thanks. I needed to ‘read’ that last bit about soul resonance 🙂 It’s happened to me lately.

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