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Duality vs. Unity Consciousness

Duality is introduced in the Bible in Genesis.  God creates the Heavens and the Earth, the darkness and the light, the day and the night.  And it is good.

He creates the land, the sea, the sky; the above and the below.  And it is good.

God creates all kinds of diversity; the Sun, Moon and Stars.  The animals and fish of the sea.  The birds in the air.  All good.

Then God creates people, humans, male and female (the ultimate opposites!).

The words in the title might be unfamiliar and might seem a little weird.  But the concepts are not new.  To me (and many others, apparently) they represent two ways of thinking and interpreting the world.

Duality is just a word used to talk about opposites.  Consciousness that is defined by Duality is just a way of thinking that focuses primarily on these opposites.  Within this mindset, judgment is inherent.  Everything is good or bad, right or wrong, constructive or destructive, yours or mine.

How do you see it?  Which “side” do you choose?  Can you see both sides? Most of us have had enough life experience to realize that not everything is black or white.  There’s more grey than anything.  The older we get, the less we know for sure.

Notice that in the first chapter of Genesis, many opposite and different things are created, but they are ALL good.

Which brings us to Unity Consciousness, nicely alluded to in Ecclesiastes 3:

  • There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven:
  • A time to be born and a time to die,
  • A time to plant and a time to uproot,
  • A time to kill and a time to heal,
  • A time to tear down and a time to build,
  • A time to weep and a time to laugh,
  • A time to mourn and a time to dance,
  • A time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
  • A time to embrace and a time to refrain,
  • A time to search and a time to give up,
  • A time to keep and a time to throw away,
  • A time to tear and a time to mend,
  • A time to be silent and a time to speak,
  • A time to love and a time to hate,
  • A time for war and a time for peace.

In other words, all these opposites and differences have their place and their time.  There is purpose to all of it.  How can you know something, if you have not faced its opposite?

We are moving into a time of Unity Consciousness, connectedness.  It is a more mature way of thinking.  There is no need to judge, only the opportunity to discern when the time is appropriate.  There is nothing to be afraid of, because everything has its place.  EveryONE has his/her place, even the evil ones.  There is no reason to fight or eliminate evil; rather, opposites create opportunities to learn and gain understanding and wisdom.

How do you see the world?  The choice is not either/or, one or the other (that’s SO 3D, Duality Consciousness!)  Rather, it is a transition:  where are you in the journey toward Unity?

Welcome to the Fifth Dimension!!!

Related topics:

David Lynch on Consciousness, Creativity and the Brain

The movie I AM talks about how we are all connected

(and did you know Tom Shadyac has written a book?)

I always love what Ernie Fitzpatrick has to say about God

The first article in a series of 12 about Living in the Fifth Dimension

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Types of Soul Connections

Note on 1/7/14:  Hi!! and Wow!!  Somehow this post (which is from another website, see below) is getting lots of attention!! I hope you enjoy it.  When I first saw it, it helped me make A LOT of sense out of my life and the people in it.  I can look at the categories and put the people I know in them.   So, enjoy, and have fun looking around my blog, if you are so inclined!

Another note on 4/12/15:  I continue to read and learn more….and if this stuff interests you, please read Michael Newton’s books, especially Journey of Souls.  It is really amazing.  He describes what our souls do between lives and how we plan our incarnations…and a whole lot more!  This is based on what his clients, under hypnosis, have told him over many years.

If we really are primarily souls, here temporarily in a physical body, what does that mean?  How does that work?  I’ve written about the idea of reincarnation, and also about the idea that we “plan” our time here, with the purpose of growing and learning lessons.  A lot of this seems especially relevant considering the stories I keep hearing from friends, stories that seem to have a lot in common.

So you might find this interesting.  It fits very well with a lot of the things I have read.   To me, the idea that we are here to learn lessons takes away the worry and guilt associated with a lot of what happens, especially the challenges.  If we look at them as valuable learning experiences (that our soul actually wants to have), rather than something that was done “wrong”, what a relief!  The other souls that share our journey are here to help us to grow.

(I’m adding this in April 2013:  a description of the process where souls were created is in the post A Process with a Purpose found here.  You might find that interesting as well 🙂  )

The following is from this website:

Monday, September 27, 2010

Hierarchy of Soul Mates and Twin Souls

There are basic categories of soul-connections that can be identified. We recognize them because of the role the souls play in each others lives and the energy underlying the connection.

Even as I write this, I do so for the purpose of helping you understand that not all soul-relationships are supposed to last an earth life of forever nor are they meant to be a feel good experience in many cases. We experience soul-mates for the primary purpose of helping us remember who WE are and to further our spiritual awakening while in these human bodies. There are numerous soul-encounters that can happen in our lives; this is simply an attempt to clarify the major categories.

Kindred Spirit:

While not actually related at the soul-level, we feel warm, comfortable and quickly at ease with these people. We share a profound mutual understanding of people and situations based on our similar soul age, spiritual values, and most likely metaphysical abilities. We energetically vibrate at a similar level, yet do not have the familial ties as with a member of our soul-family.

Primary: Parent, child, relative, friend

Primary soul-mates stay the course with us for years, often a lifetime. We experience the ebb and flow of life together. While these relationships have ups and downs they are about teaching us how to forgive, to love in a sustainable way- not for what someone can give us but for exactly who they are; faults and all (parents and siblings for example). These souls teach us about acceptance in a universal way. Over time we realize that we have chosen each other for lessons that could have come no other way. It is essential that you forgive these souls for any trauma they caused you. It is critical for your own health, but in terms of hierarchy of soul mates, you will never draw to you a high level soul mate until you have completely forgiven all primary soul mates.

Junior Soul Mate: Teacher, friend, person in line at the store, pal you meet on vacation

These souls might fulfill their role in an instant, or can be with you for a period of time. They won’t stay with you long, but you will probably never forget them. These souls may say something to you that changes the course of your life. Their impact is powerful and there is no ability to ignore the prompt they bring you. If what they teach you “stings” at first, it will become one of those lessons you are most grateful for after you reach a certain level of spiritual awareness.

Karmic Partner:

Romantic partner, friend, fling

Ready set go with these. There is instant recognition. If it is a romantic relationship, the physical chemistry is intense. It is intense enough that the souls may choose to enjoy the physical expression while ignoring the little voice that says “there are issues here”. These relationships burn intensely and typically end on terms that are unpleasant. These relationships are designed to teach major lessons that can only be taught by someone we love. When these relationships end, it’s often one sided or out of anger rather than a slow fizzle. The person being “left” learns resiliency amongst other things and there could be many reasons why the leaver leaves; but they must learn how to end a relationship with mutual respect rather than an unexplained departure. If they don’t learn this (either party), they will continue these kinds of relationships in this lifetime & the next until they learn the valuable lessons that ONLY these connections can teach. The sting of these breakups whether romantic or from someone you felt certain would be your friend forever can be devastating. This category of soul-mate bond is designed to teach you more about yourself than anything in your life to date. If you learn what is intended, you are preparing at the soul level for a High Level Soul Mate.

Karmic Companion: Friend, romantic partner, parent/child

There is not a lot of drama in these relationships. You’ve worked through most of your karma with these souls in prior lives. These relationships feel like a break from the intensity of other kinds of soul relationships. That can be a welcome change! They are based on friendship rather than passion. Certainly you will have some ups and downs and disagreements, but the overall purpose is that of companionship. The lessons in these relationships progress over time rather than being shoved down your throat. Karmic Companions can share any length of physical time together. A romantic or friendship Karmic Companion can last a lifetime; however if you separate things generally fizzle out rather than end suddenly. You will sense it’s time to move on. There is a sense of maturity – “It is time we go our separate ways” and you will wish the best for your partner. It’s a very “mature feeling” soul-mate bond.

Senior or High-Level Soul Mate

Romantic partner

Like meeting a Karmic Soul-Mate there is usually instant recognition- through the energy field or through the eyes. The desire to be with and truly know the other person at the soul level is intense. Partners at this level feel such joy to have discovered each other. It is often said there is a feeling of “coming home”. There is deep and abiding friendship. The partners are willing to sacrifice something for themselves to benefit their mate. They discover that their mates completeness seems to mean as much as their own… yet they experience that without dismissing their own growth or happiness. There is a perfect and easy balance of “Me/You/Us”. When problems do arise- and they will because we’re human- the partners have the soul/mind tools to quickly rectify the situation and return to a place of harmony. These are ways in which you’ll recognize the difference between a Senior Soul-Mate and a Karmic Soul-Mate. Partners at this level have learned to balance the need to remain self with the skills necessary to be a soul-based team.

Twin Flame- Two Souls Created From the Same Energetic Unit- Your Souls Most Complementary Partner

There is not always instant recognition. Twin Flame recognition occurs at the energetic/soul level rather than at the physical, although physical attraction typically follows. There is a compulsion toward each other that exceeds anything either has experienced in the past. It defies logic or rational thought. The Twins have trouble making eye contact at the beginning. That is because they have knowledge of everything about the other simply by looking into the eyes. This is a major responsibility and it is sensed by both parties. While a Senior Soul Mate can be recognized through the eyes, a Twin Flame perceives everything about their Twin through the eyes. There are elements unique to a Twin Flame pair that do not exist in other soul-connections. While all soul-mate relationships serve to further the spiritual growth of the individuals, Twin Flames meet for a purpose beyond the individual.

They must join their energy/souls to bring light, love and healing to the planet and its inhabitants. When these two unite, there is an exponential explosion of energy that is greater than the sum of the individual parts. Being presented your Twin Flame is the ultimate spiritual responsibility and should not be belittled by romanticizing the nature of the work to be done by the Twins.

Have you experienced a “soul connection” that you are trying to figure out?  I actually think that a big part of the purpose of this experience, is to get us to dive in and figure it out.  Remember, no one but YOU can figure out what it means FOR YOU because no one else IS you!  So, while the idea of categories of types of soul connections is useful, it’s more complicated than that.  You have to go beyond the label and understand the connection at a level that’s impossible to describe in words.  I really like Steve Gunn’s article Soul Connection or Relationship?   He has really good stuff to say.  ALWAYS remember to trust your own instincts rather than relying on someone else to tell you what’s going on with you. 🙂  YOU figuring it out FOR YOU is what it’s all about.

Another perspective can be found here:  Lots of videos and explanation from a person in this type of relationship.

More recent thoughts on Soul relationships:

The Ultimate Relationship:  Part I  and  Part II

ALSO, if you liked this post, you will probably enjoy this one:



Almost Nothing Bothers Me

It’s not that I don’t care.  Actually, I care a lot.  It’s just that very few things that happen are really worth getting upset about.

Problems come up, things don’t go as planned.  Getting upset does nothing but create drama.  So why get upset?  Just figure out what you can do to make it better or to prevent the same thing from happening over again.

“There are no problems, only solutions!”

And if there’s really nothing you can do about it, avoidance is sometimes the solution.

Say that someone says something to offend me.  Just because they said it, doesn’t mean it’s true.  If I know it’s not true, why do I care?  If I get offended, they have just sucked me in.  Life taught me this last summer when one person who didn’t even know me called me a racist (after a nice discussion, she became my friend), and another called me a slumlord.  If you know me, you know these are two things I care very deeply about, two accusations that would most push my buttons.  I found myself getting really upset, but then I thought, I know that these are ridiculous statements, so why do I even care?

Then there are the entire categories of people that are annoying….but only if you let them annoy you.  If there isn’t anything I can DO to change those people or those situations, there is no point in getting annoyed or ranting about them.  It might be true that they can’t see what I can see, or understand what I understand, but heck, it’s their journey, not mine.  If they want to remain in a cycle of making the same mistakes over and over, or living the same drama over and over, or having a point of view that seems crazy to me, so be it.  If it doesn’t affect me directly, I want no part of it.

“But everybody thinks

That everybody knows

About everybody else

Nobody knows

Anything about themselves

Cause they’re all worried about everybody else yea”

-Wasting Time, Jack Johnson

What I CAN do, instead of wasting time being annoyed, or offended, or upset, or feeling superior, is conduct myself in a way that promotes positive energy, compassion, and understanding.  It might not seem like I am “fighting” the negative, but fighting is what the negative wants.  It’s the only way for the negative to survive.

Because when you spend time fighting, you are really feeding energy to the thing you can’t stand.  You make it bigger than it was before.

Believe me, it’s not that I don’t want to change the world.  I am here to change the world, I just have a different strategy.  My strategy is to rise above it.  Worry about myself and the only thing I really have control over:  ME.   And then BE and DO in a way that supports positivity, compassion, love, understanding, and unity, that’s all.


Sometimes the unraveling is the healing

Sometimes the unraveling is the healing.

I’m still not so good at the technical side of things here, but I’m reblogging or linking, anyway, to a post that I thought was probably relevant for a couple of people I know 🙂 .  Enjoy!

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What I Really, Really Want

I read a great article today that prompted me to put this post together.  It’s a combination of several things I’ve been thinking about anyway.  The subject is: what do we really want out of a relationship, anyway?  What do men really want?  What do women really want?

To get what I’m talking about, you probably want to read the article by Ken Solin first.

Here’s how I frame this issue.  As I’ve written about before, both women and men have yin and yang characteristics.  I like how Lee Carroll refers to these two traits as “mother energy” and “father energy.”  Mother energy is nurturing, compassionate, gentle, forgiving.  Father energy is disciplined, secure, strong, physical.  Each of us, regardless of gender, has our own combination, or balance, of yin and yang, of mother energy and father energy.  So really, it’s a little hard to characterize what all women, or all men, want.

In his book Happiness is a Serious Problem, Dennis Prager talks about women and men both having insatiable desires.  He says women have an insatiable need for emotional intimacy, and men have an insatiable need for physical intimacy.  Prager makes a really good point, but I think it’s a little more complicated than that.  For purposes of this discussion, I‘m going to suggest that yin, or mother energy, craves emotional intimacy, and yang, or father energy, craves physical intimacy.

We all know that women also want physical intimacy, and men also want to feel close emotionally.  But a man who is very yang will be more focused on the physical, just like a woman who is mostly yin will focus on feelings.  In the past, when both women and men were less balanced, more polarized, the old generalizations were more accurate.

(Now, let me get a little Bible reference in here.  I find this really interesting.  I’m talking about Ephesians 5, where Paul tells wives to submit to their husbands.  In the notes in my NIV Bible, it says that submit means “to yield one’s own rights.”  The scripture talks about the body – something that is physical.  Then, the husband is told to love his wife – all about feelings.  Is it just me, or did Paul just allude to this same relationship dance of physical and emotional intimacy, in a way that was appropriate for the times??  Back when men were men, and women were women?)

IF, as I have written about before, we are all coming into greater balance within ourselves in terms of yin and yang, feminine and masculine traits, then it is no longer that simple.  Today, it makes sense that men and women will be looking for both physical and emotional intimacy. So in order to understand what a specific individual wants, one must understand that person’s unique balance of traits.  You have to get to know and understand the other person.

Ken Solin refers to the “empowered” women of today.  As women have become more “equal” what they have really become is more balanced.  Their inner yang/masculine energy has become more prominent, so no wonder we have seen women more inclined toward physical pursuits in terms of relating to men.  By the same token, we have seen men become more balanced as well, more interested in emotional intimacy, and Solin specifically talks about how this can be confusing.  I dare say that physical interaction involves skills that are easier to pick up, compared to the slippery slope of learning how to deal with sharing feelings.  No wonder this is really tough on many guys.

Solin very wisely talks about the difference between just being emotional, and being emotionally honest.  We’re really talking about communicating what you are feeling, which means being honest with yourself and understanding your own feelings first.  In order to have true emotional intimacy, each side must strive to be emotionally honest, AND each side must commit to listen without judgment or defensiveness.  Open communication must occur.

This is no different than physical intimacy, but does anybody ever talk about this?  We give each other feedback about what we like and don’t like, this feels good, that feels better, can you try this, etc.  A good physical relationship involves give and take, responding to feedback, and trying new things.  A physical relationship isn’t so good when one side goes along with something that doesn’t work for them.  A selfish physical partner probably won’t experience physical intimacy with the same partner for very long.

So all the same goes for working on emotional intimacy.  Solin gives very good advice.  I like what he says:

“No one wins when the truth gets beaten up.”




(Maybe the guy’s lock should be his heart, and the woman should have the key on a chain around her neck??  Still this picture made me smile!)




My Head is Too Busy

During the last few days, the idea of the “Indigo child” has been a primary topic in my world.  On Saturday, I spent the afternoon with Lee Carroll, who co-authored The Indigo Children and a couple other books on the subject.

In our 3D world we need to use labels.  We communicate using words, and we have to be able to say what we’re talking about.  Just know that my understanding of this concept goes way beyond a simple label, so try not to get stuck on the words.

I’m an old soul.  There, I said it.  It’s just me — it’s who I am and how I understand myself.  It doesn’t make me any better than anybody else.  But I understand these discussions of Indigos, because they are old souls, and I know what it’s like to be an old soul.

I’ve been here for 50 years now.  I have always known that I was here for a reason.  My personality is quiet, tolerant, and submissive (I have the personality test results to prove that, haha) but I am not weak.  I’ve just always had a lot going on under the surface that nobody else is aware of.

I found a great website that provides a quick summary of what I’m talking about when I say Indigos. The website is written by Diana T. Mackiewicz, Ma.Ed, a high school teacher.

So here’s what happens in my head.  I have about a million thoughts going on at the same time.  It’s like there’s a door open to another level of awareness.  It’s all up there, swirling around, and today is one of those times that I am having a hard time figuring out which one to go with.  This is happening more often lately.  It feels like I’m going to explode sometimes.  Sometimes it’s more like I’m paralyzed and do nothing instead.

I’ve mentioned before in a post about Linear vs. Conceptual Thinking, the movie with Nicholas Cage where he can run scenarios quickly through his mind.  There is access to a huge number of possibilities, potentials, ideas, wisdom, things to think about or investigate or do.  They are all there at once.  If everything is energy, it’s like being a balloon that is constantly being filled with energy and getting bigger, and you don’t know how long you can hold it together.

This contributes to my other trait of being impulsive.  Sometimes a great idea pops up, and I just go with it.  I remember when reviewing that test result, it seemed odd to our pastor, who was the one who gave the test.  But I understand it.

My personality traits allowed me to navigate a world that always felt foreign, without making waves.  I have never felt like I fit in, that there was anyone else like me, but it never really bothered me.  I have just always played the game.  When I hit a roadblock, I would just quietly get out of line, and take the dirt road through the woods that got me to the other side.  Then I’d keep on going.  No big deal.

I also test very logical, which helps balance the rest of it.  I have always been very analytical, I always got math concepts instantly, and I’ve worked as both a financial analyst and a research analyst.  I am connected to a method of handling all the ideas and data; I have a mental framework that helps me sort it all out.  So yes, I can focus and function when I need to.  Taking lots of data, analyzing it, simplifying it, and then presenting it seems to be a skill that has been a primary theme of learning throughout my life.

I understand things that nobody else seems to see, much less care about.  Things that seem simple to me, don’t even occur to others.  If I let myself think about this enough, I start to feel like I live in an alien world.

Please, please, please don’t think I’m feeling superior, like I’m so great.  It’s really not like that.  It’s more kind of a pain.  Mostly, I have given up trying to explain this to anyone, because it is just misunderstood.

But it’s time to speak up, because of the kids.  It makes sense to me that there are more and more kids being born with this kind of perspective.  They come in thinking this way.  They understand so much, so instantly, and trying to slow down and force their way of thinking into a linear format is boring, tedious, pointless work.  I am sure that what they are dealing with in their heads is much tougher than what I deal with.  Maybe I just got lucky with who I am and how I handle it.

Like, let’s talk about homework.  I NEVER did my math homework.  Thank goodness back then it wasn’t part of your grade.  I got 100% on most of my tests.  I got a 760 on the math portion of the SAT, and I never did any prep for the test.  If I had had to do homework problems, especially the amount they make kids do today, I would have gone nuts.  I remember joking with Mr. Kerrigan when he would ask about homework.  Homework, me, really?  I shudder to think of the repercussions that kids today would face for that one.  Yikes.

But there’s a lot of pressure these days to get kids to conform.  Do what they are told.  We want them to act like kids are supposed to act.  (Actually, it’s worse.  We don’t even want to let them do stupid, silly kid stuff.)  We want to CONTROL them.  And we leave them no outlet to let out steam, vent their frustrations, or share who they are.  (At one school, they went so far as to limit what my kid could do during sports, because of “behavior problems” in class.  The ONE place he could let out steam and be successful, they made it clear they were in charge there too.)

Hello, we are not breaking horses here.

It doesn’t help that when these kids do speak up, they tend to point out things that are broken.  From their perspective, they are pointing out the obvious, being factual and honest about what they see.  Unfortunately, these tend to be the things we really don’t want to look at or think about.  The tough issues, the hypocrisy, the places “we just don’t go there.”  Oh no! Don’t want to talk about that one, quiet down that kid who’s being DISRESPECTFUL!  One perspective sees it as factual and honest, the other disrespectful.

What’s the answer?  Well, I know it’s not easy.  Kids still have to learn to navigate the world.  We need to have manners and be kind to one another.  But geez, give them a break already.  They are not “bad” because they don’t want to do boring homework.  It’s not their fault that they already understand a lot of things at a level many adults haven’t even thought about.

It’s not a competition.  I’ve noticed that it’s the adults with big or fragile egos that have a hard time with these kids.  Aren’t WE supposed to be the adults here?

We should be in awe of these kids.  When they are not feeling threatened, and we take the time to listen to them, their wisdom is apparent.

I am the parent of one of these kids, in a package with a personality that is not at all underground like mine.  Very wise, huge heart, very little patience for lack of integrity or those who can’t keep up, and who won’t hesitate to speak out.  As the website above points out, we’re talking “control issues with authority figures of the opposite sex”, and “non-conformist like ideas that may also not readily fit in with mainstream society.”  Oh, boy.

Despite the fact that I understand the disconnect here, being a mediator and facilitator for this kid is terribly exhausting.

But the only way we are going to “solve” this issue is to deal with it.  We can only deny it and fight it for so long.  These kids are not going away.  It’s a tsunami coming.  Get on board or get tumbled by the waves.  Seriously.


You are not who you ‘think’ you are


The Answers to Everything

We are spiritual beings.  We are souls, temporarily in a body here on Earth.  We have free will to use our time here in whatever way we wish.  We can remain in reactive mode, live our life under the default settings, let life “happen to us”, maybe never even consider the purpose of it all, and that’s just fine.

We also have the option of choosing to be proactive, to examine our choices along the way, to consider the implications of our choices, to try to find our purpose in being here.  We can work to understand the deeper meaning of it all. Take it to the next level.

Whatever you choose is right for you.  Be happy with your choice!  Enjoy your life for what it is!

Wait…’re not happy?  You’re frustrated?  Something’s missing?  Life isn’t going the way you want it to? You can’t shake this feeling that there’s something more?  Can’t shake the loneliness?  Well, you have a choice – you can maintain the status quo and just live with it, or you can try to figure it out, to FIND THE ANSWERS.

Don’t know where to start?

Well, the most important thing you need to know is that YOU are the only one who can figure it all out FOR YOU.  There’s no formula, no class you can take, no book you can read, no list of rules you can follow, no guru that will give you all the answers.  It’s a lot of work, and that may sound intimidating.  But nothing worth doing is easy, right?

Now wait a minute, you say, I’ve seen your blog, and you keep writing about books and articles you’ve read, you have all these opinions, what’s all that about?

Well, no one can tell you THE ANSWER, but there are lots of hints out there, there is lots of wisdom.  It comes from the Bible, it comes from the many wise souls who have come before us, we can find it in our friends and family, we can see it in nature.  Wisdom and guidance is EVERYWHERE.  I’m a researcher at heart, and I love digging for wisdom.  People can help and support each other in this process, but they can’t determine someone’s answers for them.  By sharing my process, my thoughts, how I see my answer, MAYBE someone else is supported in their own quest.  Maybe not.

It doesn’t matter what you call it:  becoming a better person, becoming enlightened, ascension, spiritual maturity, being born again, transformation, raising your vibration, higher consciousness.  All these terms describe the quest.  It’s not a task to be completed, it’s a process.

So, from my perspective, here are some steps that seem to be universal, things to consider, helpful hints, in no particular order.  As always, if they seem useful to you, great!  If not, skip to the next one.  If you find this stuff helpful, feel free to share with others!

Become the Observer  Whenever you encounter a situation, step back and pretend you’re a fly on the wall.  You might have to wait until later, when you’re alone, but run the situation through your head as if you were not involved.  Pretend that everyone is just an actor in a play, and watch.  Let go of the feelings, the expectations, the preconceived notions, the judgments, and just OBSERVE.  This is an exercise that helps you gain a perspective.  Get curious.  Be interested without an agenda.  Observe yourself – how did you feel, how did you react, what pushed your buttons?  What judgments did you make, what expectations did you have?

Abandon Survival Mode  Dig down and figure out what your basic Intent is.  Is it to take care of Number One?  Survival of the fittest?  Or is your primary interest the well-being of all, the greater good?  Do you believe in win-win solutions?

Recognize and Manage your Ego  Understand that your ego is useful.  It keeps you safe; it’s a survival mechanism.  It watches out for Number One.  But your ego likes to have control.  It can get you in trouble if you’re not careful.  It needs to be understood and managed.

Conquer Fear  What are you afraid of?  Fear is another survival mechanism.  The right kind of fear keeps us safe.  But it’s another thing that can take over and get out of control.  And it may also be the biggest obstacle to moving forward.  Don’t let the fear of doing something wrong keep you from TRYING.

Question Everything  There is nothing wrong with questioning everything.  It’s why we have a brain.  It’s a thought process that helps us understand things better.  Any time you are told that something should not be questioned, a big red flag should go up in your head.  If something is TRUE, then any questioning will only lead back to that truth anyway, right?  What are you afraid of?  While we’re at it, do you judge others who consider ideas that are outside of your box?  Why do you care?

Recognize Drama  Do you love drama?  Drama is fed by the ego and by fear.  It’s seductive.  Drama can keep you very busy if you let it.  We all know people that create and thrive on drama.  Just remember that participating in drama is your choice.

Cultivate Faith  The religions of the world all focus on a Creator that is benevolent and loving.  Do you believe this to be the case or not?  Be honest with yourself – do you act as if you have faith that things will work out, or are you always worried?  Do you really believe in a God that punishes?  Does this feel right in your gut?

Stop Judging  How much time do you spend playing the Blame Game?  Besides the fact that the Bible says don’t judge, spending your time judging doesn’t change what’s been done.  Ok, you might be feeding your Ego so you can feel superior, or you might have other reasons to be doing this.  The more time you spend blaming, the less you have to spend figuring out a solution to the problem.  Besides, you can only control YOU.  Observe yourself, and make a conscious decision about how much judging you want to be doing.

Stop Seeing Yourself as a Victim  Do you wish things were different than they are?  What do you choose to do about it?  You can choose to feel sorry for yourself, get mad at the world for being the way it is, get depressed about it.  OR, you can accept that things are the way they are, it JUST IS, and then decide what actions you can take to deal with it.

Look for the Lesson  One way to deal with the challenges and mysteries of life is to look for the lesson.  Many say that you will face certain situations over and over again, until you learn the lesson that is presented.  Feel like the same stuff keeps happening to you?  Look for the lesson, learn something, gain wisdom.  The idea is, if you learn the lesson, you won’t remain stuck dealing with the same situation over again.  Also, if you look at life this way, you won’t be as likely to take these things personally and you will be less likely to see yourself as the victim.

Listen to your Intuition  This is probably the single most important hint, and the most liberating.  Trust yourself!  YOU are powerful.  YOU are wise, if you choose to be.  YOU have a piece of God inside you – use it!!  Not only are you an amazing human being, but God is on your side, and you only need to ASK for help, and it will be there!!

Have Patience…  This is the hardest one for me.  Things don’t necessarily fall into place as quickly as we would like.  We have to trust and let go of doubt.  Ugh.


Find the Humor in Everything  Despite all this serious talk, don’t ever forget that life is to be ENJOYED!!  It’s easier to see the humor in life when you are in Observer Mode.  When you recognize a challenge that pops up in front of you as one you have seen before, laugh at the fact that life is giving you another chance to slay the dragon!  When you see drama unfolding, and you see the participants as actors in the play, appreciate the wonderful acting job they are doing, and laugh!  Appreciate each character for the caricature that they are!

Most of all, learn to laugh at yourself.  It’s ok to be vulnerable.  It’s ok to make a mistake.  When you laugh at yourself, when you enjoy your own journey, and others see you, it gives them permission to go easy on themselves.  Hey, we’re all here together doing the best we can.  Why not enjoy it while we’re here?!


Yin, Yang, War and Peace

I have a theory I’m working on in my head that may explain some of the disturbing things we are seeing around us lately.  If you’re interested, think along with me here, I promise I’ll get to the point eventually!

First I have to write about the idea of balancing masculine and feminine aspects of ourselves and of our communities. This is a huge topic, one that I really feel that I need to do a lot more research on, but I guess I have to start somewhere.

We’re probably all familiar with the terms yin and yang.  The symbol is really interesting, because each side has a little circle of the other –  meaning that the yin side still includes some yang, and the yang still includes some yin.

Before I say more, here’s a summary of what yin and yang traits would be.  Remember, you don’t have to be a man to have masculine traits, and you don’t have to be a woman to have the feminine!  (And if you believe that all of us have incarnated as both men and women, it might be easier to remember that we each incorporate all of these traits, or energies, just in different amounts.)

Feminine Masculine
Yin Yang
Loving Living
Soft Hard
Intuitive Logical
Magnetic Electric
Curves Lines
Feeling Doing

I am NOT an expert on this topic – please do your own research if you want to understand more.  It’s a huge topic.  But this theme keeps coming up for me, and being aware of the idea has made me look at what is going on in the world differently.  (And as I’ve said before, I think of all of these ideas as metaphors, not literal explanations.  It’s the mental exercise that helps you understand, it’s not The Answer.)

(I am adding this comment later:  If you read my previous post Encouraging People you will see that I was thinking this way a long time ago….the parallel is that when you look at Paul and Barnabas in the Bible, they represent the masculine and feminine approaches.  But anyway…)

The first time I really paid attention to this was when I read The Book of Destiny by Carlos Barrios (2009).  This is a book about the Maya, written at the request of the Mayan Elders.  The book makes it clear that the Maya have not been predicting “doomsday” at Winter Solstice 2012.  Rather, they say that we are entering The Fifth Sun.

“The famous date of December 21, 2012, is the start of a new cycle called Job Ajaw, or the Fifth Sun.  This new era will be ushered in by the solar meridian crossing the galactic equator and the earth aligning with the center of the galaxy.  At sunrise on December 21, 2012, for the first time in 26,000 years, the sun will rise to intersect with the Milky Way and the plane of the ecliptic. “  ( p. 116.)

According to the book, the First Sun was governed by feminine energy, or matriarchy, and was a formation period.  The Second Sun was governed by masculine energy, or patriarchy, and was a period of economic and intellectual development.  The Third Sun was governed by feminine energy and was a period of development of the mind and spirit.  The Fourth Sun, which is the period we are finishing, has been governed by masculine energy and has been a period of incredible scientific and technological development, however, we have worshiped reason and materialism, and failed to respect our environment.

The Fifth Sun will be balanced, governed by both masculine and feminine energy.  The Maya say it will be a time when the two sides will support one another, and the qualities in one will elevate the qualities in the other.  It is an era where peace and harmony will become possible.

So the main theme of what we are moving into, then, is balance.  We can think about this principle in terms of an individual person, a relationship between two people, a family, a community, a society, and the world.  And it is important to think of it as a process, it won’t happen overnight.  In fact, think about how the world has changed in the last 50 years.  I don’t think it’s hard to see that this process has already started.

As in any attempt to balance, many times the pendulum swings too far when adjustments are made, and it takes time for balance to settle in.  I think about some of the women I worked with, older than me, who took on strong masculine traits to be successful in business in the 1980s.  They acted more like men, rather than strong women.  There was nothing wrong with this, it was just part of the process.  We have to experiment to figure out how this new balance is going to work.

There’s lots more to talk about with this subject, but let me get to the theory I’m working on…

The world has changed, is changing, and some men are handling their own transition easier than others.  Men now share household chores, child-rearing responsibilities, many are comfortable sharing feelings and being compassionate.  It is now permissible in our society for men to incorporate a more balanced approach to life.  Women have become more independent, and moved toward the middle in their own way.   Relationships now are more about partnership and working together, rather than about a man being in charge and a woman subservient.  Again, it’s a process.

I am aware of more than a few people who describe having an onslaught of unexplainable, intense feelings.  You think you are going crazy, and it feels very out of control.  Each situation seems to be unique (I have my very own), and each person processes this and understands it in their own context.  Some face this head-on, some suppress it, some blame it on others, there are many variations of the story.  Many times this occurs in the context of changes in relationships.  But this is not a unique occurrence.  At the core is an experience that seemingly everything has changed.  It can be disconcerting, terrifying and baffling.

For those who are more weighted toward the masculine (which is going to be more likely men), who have been most comfortable in the era we are leaving, this transition and this kind of experience is going to be harder and very uncomfortable.  Some have been raised in families, or faith communities, or work in jobs where it has been less acceptable to incorporate these changes.  They cannot avoid the onslaught of this new energy, yet they have no frame of reference or skill set to help them to assimilate feminine energy.  The old way of doing things just doesn’t work anymore.  They are losing the battle.

In a crisis, a primarily masculine person will try to gain control, to stabilize the situation, to DO SOMETHING to get things back on track, back to the proven way of how things used to work.  The problem is, the world today will no longer allow or support the old paradigm, and these attempts just won’t work, no matter how hard one tries.  A primarily feminine person will try to understand, will focus on feelings, but since we are talking about assimilating feminine energy, this will naturally be an easier process for the feminine.  We women have all lived with the old, masculine way, and we are more likely to see the benefit in moving toward greater balance.

So let’s talk about some of the crazy things we see happening.

Did you know that in 2009 and 2010, more US soldiers killed themselves than died in combat?

Masculine energy is more compatible with war, control and power.  A world with a balance of masculine and feminine energy will no longer support the culture of war.

Could it be, then, that as the balance of energy shifts, the men (and women) who are overseas at war will be affected?  As more feminine energy builds, and increases feelings, compassion, intuition and softness, how will individuals adjust and react to the situations of war?  Could this be why soldiers snap?  They may be overwhelmed by this energy, and they have no way to deal with it.  They may see no way out.  In a culture (the military) that is so masculine, how does one deal with the shift?

It’s not only showing up in the military.  I see the bizarre attacks on birth control and women’s health care as desperate attempts to retain control, to cling to “the way it was”.  It seems some men want us to return to the dark ages.

What I am saying, is that given what is going on in the world, this behavior is understandable.  I am choosing to interpret it with compassion.  How terrifying it must be to see the world changing before your eyes, to see everything you were ever taught or “knew” crumbling.  In this kind of situation, anyone would scramble to hold on to something well-known and “proven”.  I could be totally off-base on this, but step back and watch Rick Santorum, and tell me you can come up with a better explanation for his behavior.  (And UPDATE August 2012:  How about Rep. Todd Akin’s comments about “legitimate rape”?  Think about his statements and his perspective in the context of what I am saying.)

We’re all in a huge tug-of-war over this.  Making those who are having difficulty with the transition “wrong” isn’t going to help the process along.  Having compassion, some patience, and a sense of humor about their struggles, is probably a better way to help ease their transition.  Being aware that certain segments of the population may have a tougher transition will probably help us to anticipate where resistance will surface, which might help us avoid or at least understand some of the crazy behaviors.

NOTE:  It is my personal opinion that, despite the fact I think we should  be compassionate and have a sense of humor, I DON”T think we should be electing obviously unbalanced individuals to be our leaders.  Just sayin’.

Let’s all hang in there.  We’re all in this together.  Which makes me think of Ben Lee:


Why Doesn’t God Stop Tragedies?

Why does God allow such horrible tragedies to occur?  The senseless killing of women and children in Afghanistan, the shooting of Trayvon Martin in Florida, eight killed in a house fire in West Virginia, the unexplained suicide of a young man…..the list goes on and on.  These tragedies hurt, and even if we want to trust God, and believe that all is for the best, still, the answers do not come.  We just want to understand.

Following are excerpts from an article that attempts to explain all this in the context of the shooting of Gabby Giffords in Tucson in January of 2011. 

The complete source article is here.  Read with an open mind.  It will definitely make you think.

You Don’t Know How the Frog Jumps

Humans want answers, and there are so many answers from so many places that don’t satisfy, and this might even be one of them. The reasoning of God escapes all of you because there are no linear reasons for things you experience. It is not pre-planned, since there is no predestination. There was no certainty that on that day on the eighth of January that these things would take place. There are, instead, only potentials.

So if you had the mind of God, you would have a layer of what we would call quantum logic, which is far larger than anything that you can conceive of. It’s nothing that any Human will ever be able to understand for it is the mind of God. Yet Humans carry in them the seeds of God and also that which is the Creator energy. So sometimes, just sometimes, we can make explanations that may not fit the logic puzzle of your reality, but you still understand at some level the appropriateness of all things even though you don’t have the mind of God. There is a part missing from what you understand and what you know. It even goes beyond your intuition of what you could possibly think about. To us, your reality as we see it in a quantum state is a series of potentials that are all together, happening all at once. The lines that connect them are free choice, and these are not known, but only are layers of potentials.

So therefore, even as we speak, we know of the potentials that may occur that are both positive and negative in what you would call a future time. To us it is not the future, but simply a soup of potentials in a circle. So sometimes when we see a Human Being with free will and free choice who is going to create something that you would call a tragedy, it is to us a potential on that which you might call the canvas of what could happen. There’s no guarantee that it will. Are you starting to see the catalyst here? It’s Human free choice.

Yet the layers of the logic of Spirit often create something positive out of what you might see as negative. There are often offsetting energies that would be positive and good for the planet and this is the puzzle before you, because it looks like God is involved in these things, even though God did not create them. Therefore, many would say, “God is involved in the tragedy. How could this happen? Why would God let this happen?” We get this question constantly, with Humans on their knees in sorrow with tears. “If you’re really God, you would not have let this happen.” But the puzzle before you that is outside of your logic is this: The potentials are known by God, but there is no predestination. Humans can walk right into whatever they create. However, since we see the potentials of this, Spirit also can create something around it.

Spirit is in a quantum state where time does not proceed like it does for you. Even the date was unknown to God – when the Human would decide to pick up that gun and go to that place for whatever reason and accomplish that potential. Free choice is the axiom of the rules of Spirit and the Human. So it is that that which you would call the creative energy or God works with humanity and free choice together. It is the test of the planet. It always has been. It is the crux of the energy that was developed right here in Tucson. But you still don’t know how it works, so you come into judgment outside of the purview of all the knowledge you need to make a decision like that. You only look at the 3D, the energy of the tragedy.

I know this is complex for you and much of what I have said is not understandable. So let’s just say that the logic of God is beyond your understanding, since it does not fit with what you think are the way things work.

The Logic of the Jumping Frog

I’ll give you an example. Here is a classic story that is given in your logic classes even in your schools today. It is given to reveal how humanity often reasons when they don’t have all the information or even the concepts needed to come to judgment.

This is a parable. There was a championship frog. And this championship frog was taught to jump when the owner of the frog yelled, “Jump!” The cause and effect was established. The frog jumped every single time the owner yelled, “Jump!

An experiment was done and the question was asked, “What would happen if you removed the legs of the frog?” And so they did. The master yelled, “Jump!”, but the frog did nothing. He just sat there. No legs.

Therefore, all of the scientific journals of the day wrote up the experiment and said it proved conclusively that, “removing the legs of a frog makes him deaf.” End of parable.

Now, perhaps this is silly to you, but Humans might actually do that if they really didn’t know how a frog jumps. And you’d accept that and over time you’d move on with that notion. As silly as it is to you, it exemplifies that you don’t know what you don’t know. And therefore, your logic is not the logic of God. You don’t have the mind of God, but you do have the love of God. You’re learning, for the love of God is a great teacher…

Events such as (the shooting in Tuscon), whether they are positive or negative, seem to wind up on an international stage where everybody can see them. That’s for a reason. There are reasons for things and this is one of them – so that you can see the effect of compassion…

Spirit did not create this Tucson tragedy, but because Spirit knew of the potentials of it, there were certain kinds of things synchronistically that would work for the planet. You don’t know how a frog jumps. It’s going to sound like Spirit planned all this, but we did not.

Let me tell you about the rules. Before we even speak of the event, let me speak of the rules of God.

God loves all unconditionally – rule number one.

Number two, God does not punish humanity. This city did nothing wrong. The people who were involved did nothing wrong. Yet Human Beings want to go to their knees in guilt and say, “What is it that would have created such a thing in our backyard, to our people, to the child, the religious leader?” And to the six who are not here anymore, what would you say to them? “What did we do wrong and why us?” That is always the question, is it not? And so you wring your hands and ask for answers. Because we knew of the potentials of a Human Being with free choice doing what he did, it was not that difficult for us to work with it. We could not stop the Human Being, and we never will. We won’t stop a Human any more than we could have stopped those who boarded the airplanes and flew them into buildings where 3,000 people died horrible deaths, crushed. It wounded the very heart of the nation! And many cried out, “You could have stopped them. Oh, the humanity,” they say. “Spirit, you could have stopped them.”

You don’t know how the frog jumps.

This is what you should know. Human Being, free choice will always trump the actions of God. But because we knew it might happen, synchronistically we had those ready with cameras on that 9/11 day. Synchronistically, everybody caught it. Synchronistically, the entire nation could participate in the compassion that went right into the Crystalline Grid, which will never be the same. And the 3,000 knew it in New York and so did the six in Tucson.

Standing on the other side of the veil years ago in your time, we saw the potential. We see the potentials of what even those unborn will do! They are only potentials, but they are in the soup of our reality, our quantumness. You don’t know how the frog jumps, so you cannot fathom what this must look like. It’s not predestination. It is, instead, predisposition. You are predisposed to follow a karmic path – for that energy that has you come to the earth with the parents that you have, with an unbalance that might occur, with the actions that may result, is that which propels Human choice. And we knew it. We knew it before he was ever born.

What this means is that we knew at a level you cannot fathom, the ones who went there that day to receive the bullets. They knew, too! Not consciously, but quantumly. I spoke to them before they came in. Did you know that?

I said to them, “Here’s the potential. See it? You’re a piece of God right now, about to become a Human Being and give away the power and all the knowledge that you have. Yet you wish to go down there once again and serve this planet, almost blind to the dimensions that you know so well here, working only in 3D, running into walls thick with drama and misunderstanding and death. Look at the potential! You might not last long.” Spirit asked the nine year old, “My dear, you may only have nine years, maybe a little more. Do you really want to risk this?” And you know what she said to me? “If it will help the planet, that’s what I’ll do.” 

And you wonder why we wash your feet? It’s not up to God to stop these things, but we could do everything that is within the purview of what we are allowed around Human free choice to make the best of it – and so we did.

Why Tucson?

I want to make a statement so that you’ll understand this, for one of the questions is, “When can we really, truly, start the healing of Tucson? When can we say we’ve turned the page and now we’re healing? We’ve mourned enough and now we’re ready to heal these lands and these hearts and all – when will it start?” I’ll tell you and you’re not going to understand. It started on January 8! This was so that the earth would have compassion for what happens here on an international stage, to the point that it would help peace on Earth come quicker. And you wonder what the six departed want to tell you? I know, for they are with me right now. They’re on the other side right now, looking back at you and they’re saying to you, “We did our part. Make it worth it. Make it worth it. We stepped right into it.”

Why Tucson? Why here? Oh, dear ones, listen to the synchronicity of this and understand. This is a healing place. It’s a clean place. … If this tragedy was going to happen anywhere, let it be here, for this is the energy of wisdom and this city will be able to generate a compassion that no other place would understand but this one. For those who deal in art and music and beauty and sound and light are wise old souls and there’s a lot of them here!

Now, let me give you something to think about and I’ll just get right to the elephant in the room. Was it political? It doesn’t matter. You cannot assign judgment or blame and Spirit will not, but here is an interesting fact. Because of the target that he chose, and that which is political in this tragedy, the attributes of it brought the president here. Then it was international, wasn’t it? Then for a moment, it became the compassion of the planet and not just the compassion of Tucson, or even of the United States. Do you see what happened? We couldn’t control the shooter, nor would we ever. Free choice. But the synchronicity around it, we helped with. You don’t know how the frog jumps, and some of you are still confused.

I want to take you back to 1999 to show you how unusual this is. In 1999, two young men walked into a school in Colorado and they were loaded with weapons. They proceeded to shoot their classmates and a lot more than six were killed. Can you imagine being a parent that day? You send your child to school and you expect them to come home. But they didn’t. The grief was great and the compassion was great and the tragedy was there to see, yet there was no presidential visit. Are you starting to see this?

In 2006, a very unbalanced man walked into a precious place, an Amish schoolhouse, and killed the children. There could be no greater dichotomy than this. The Amish are already sacred, compassionate, gentle, and harmonious people. In walked that which was pure evil to them, and the whole community reeled with sorrow, yet the president did not visit.

So here’s what I’m telling you: Politically, it took center stage. It did so for one reason, so that what a Human Being did here in free choice would actually create compassion for the planet. This will be something that creates an energy that will be far greater than any tragedy that you might assign to it. And that is the logic of God.

“But Kryon, if Spirit knew that, then they were part of all of this.” You don’t know how a frog jumps. And all that phrase means is that there is so much here hiding that you can’t assimilate with Human logic, or even love. Quantum energy is that way; it appears to be chaotic when it actually isn’t at all. There is, indeed, a system here.

The six who left you, you will mourn. … And all will be back sooner than you think. …

As these souls return, as they grow up, they will grow up in an energy that they helped create because of the compassion that was felt at their departure. That is the logic of God and it’s about the slow creation of peace on Earth. It’s about that which you are creating, which is changing the paradigm of your reality. Compassion is the key. So, Human Being, what are you going to do with that?


Compassion and unity are the new keywords of the planet. Tucson is part of it. I want to congratulate those in the room who already knew all this and who have been working these puzzles since January 8, and who have been healing the land and sending compassion to those who remain. There is love here. There is appropriateness here. You’re all working the same puzzle and there’ll come a day when you’ll understand it all.

When I see you on the other side of the veil, briefly, before you return to the planet, you know how the frog jumps. In that precious moment, we’ll look at each other and smile, and you’ll go, “Send me back. I’ve got work to do.” Did you know that’s why I’m here? Kryon exists to explain these things to old souls. I give these things to you in pure love. There are no conditions here, whether you believe me or not. Whether you believe this is real channelling or not, whether you agree with me or not, I see God in you. And that’s good enough for me.

That’s good enough for me.